“Why do I love you? I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I’m with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself but for what you are making of me. I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool in me, and for accepting the possibilities of the good in me. Why do I love you? I love you for closing your eyes to the discords in me, and for adding to the music in me by worshipful listening. I love you for helping me to construct of my life not a tavern, but a temple. I love you because you have done so much to make me happy. You have done it without a word, without a touch, without a sign. You have done it by just being yourself, perhaps, after all, that is what love means, and that is why I love you.” — Liberace
When you truly love someone…body, mind and soul, and you realize that the relationship as you have known it no longer serves your higher self, how do you let go? How is it possible to leave someone you love? Is there a “right” way or a “wrong” way to leave the relationship? You ask yourself over and over, can we “fix” this and grow through this together? How do you know when your time is up, and you must face the gut-wrenching pain of accepting the truth that the relationship needs to be transformed in order to remain true to the love that you shared?
You can’t know with your mind, but your heart will speak volumes if you listen. I have come to realize that sometimes we outgrow our partners and to be authentically genuine, we have to change the form of the relationship. We become incapable of relating to each other in fulfilling ways as our consciousness expands….no longer accepting the limitations of the relationship.
Life is not static, we are continually evolving whether we resist or not. Often times it is through tremendous turmoil, crisis, and confusion that we are shown a new direction. Often times this includes ending a relationship in order to embrace a larger vision for our lives.
When we hear the calling to reinvent ourselves, we choose to listen or shut it down through fear. There is no judgment, it took me years of stuffing my desire for personal growth until I was able to admit my own dissatisfaction and unhappiness. I finally chose my joy and inside me, I grew more empowered day by day until I had the strength to walk away from a 30 yr. marriage, and everything I had known. Realizing your needs are not being met from someone you dearly love is a process that must unfold in accordance with the soul’s timing….with an intention for self-awareness and unflinching honesty, you really are left with no choice. A willingness to love your life becomes your primary directive.
Everyone is different on how they handle the “breakup”…but ultimately we are required to make a decision to be emotionally honest, and face the unknown with faith. We can hold onto the delusions of security and comfort, or we can make the choice to move toward greater self-love and personal expansion.
It’s impossible to stop loving someone you truly loved, and you don’t have to. If you look deep enough you will discover, ironically, the courage to let go and allow the love in your heart to transform you to a new level of understanding….wanting the best for someone else. Supporting another on their own life’s path with the “truth” of you, allows you to give the greatest gift of all you can give another human being…Love can never die and I take great comfort in knowing that.
I am so honored to share my journey with you…my book “Hugging Trees in the Dark…Finding the Courage to Free the Heart” is now available on Amazon. I love you and I support you on your healing journey.