“This is not a goodbye, my darling, this is a thank you. Thank you for coming into my life and giving me joy, thank you for loving me and receiving my love in return. Thank you for the memories I will cherish forever. But most of all, thank you for showing me that there will come a time when I can eventually let you go. I love you. ― Nicholas Sparks
Writing about love is a joy for me. There is no greater gift to give to another human being than the potential of love’s ability to transform and evolve your soul. I have said many times… love is all there is, and the purpose of life. In my heart, I am learning to really breathe that in with surrender and exquisite grace for the first time in my life. I am a person capable of loving passionately, but in my past there was so much codependency and a strong need for approval, validation, and acceptance that I wasn’t able to authentically and safely express my own needs…..practicing self-love…. knowing that I am empowered in my own skin.…independent of the other.
Love can disappoint us if we have expectations around what it means to be “in love.” As I become more accessible to “being” in love’s presence and witness my all-consuming desire to wrap myself in a cocoon of free-falling, “throw caution to the wind” kind of love, I realize that it is one of the scariest feelings that we experience. The anticipation (and doubt) of romantic dreams coming true, and an awareness of the madness that ensues when we feel we are no longer receiving the love we perceive as what we need….often causes us to shut down, go into protection mode ….forgetting love’s amazing ability to change our life forever.
I have heard the expression “hearts are made to be broken.” In other words, hearts do heal, grow, expand and give us the opportunity to love again with an expanded wisdom and enthusiasm. As difficult as it may be to become vulnerable to another…knowing the risk that is looming in the darkness of our minds, we can choose to allow love to flow through us by removing the defended walls we have created in an attempt to keep us from feeling the pain of love “lost.”…….leaving us with a sense of freedom, and a willingness to be more present and engaged with our beloved.
In truth, it is not possible to lose love as it is the energetic current of infinite possibilities and the source of all of life! As we journey on and raise our level of consciousness and commitment to become the grandest version of ourselves, we often times need to “end” a relationship in order to have a more soulful one with ourselves. Love is the “all” that shapes us, and by choosing over and over to engage in the beautiful dance of love, we open our world to the wondrous and often unseen delicacies of life, for which I chose to be immensely grateful. First, we must “see” the illusions created by fear of love’s departure.
The decision to love no matter what you believe is the “cost”…. will set you free. I am so grateful to you, my readers, and it is my greatest desire to share the intimate details of my life with you in my book “Hugging Trees in the Dark”…Finding the Courage to Free the Heart…I love you…..RJ