“All of your relationships serve as teachers. Some relationships have an ability, a unique quality, that facilitates deeper and more profound changes within. Feelings such as “I am a better me,” and “I am more deeply seen” are common when there is a soul connection with another. “A soulmate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.” – Thomas Moore

A shared love with a “Soulmate” is like no other. Through this connection you learn more about yourself, your deepest values and needs, and become more enlightened (self-aware) in the process. There is a flow and ease between you, an almost instant experience of love… a soul knowing, if you will. However, that is not the end of the story.

 What is a Soulmate?

Sometimes, soulmates will “touch” you, sometimes only for a brief moment in time, but nevertheless you experience an insight into yourself that impacts you deeply. Suddenly you see the world through new eyes, and your heart feels open in new ways..

Welcome to the world of Soulmates.  However, there is more to understand. Your Soulmates, by necessity,  will present you with many challenges. Thus,it is an important part of their role in your life.

The bottom line is, you want to share your love. Love is true and pure, when you desire to be whole and complete within yourself, first and foremost. Soulmates are not about another person completing you as if you are inherently lacking.

Many of you have been initiated to the false perception of this “New Age” way of thinking that to find your “Soulmate” means happily ever after, a love like no other, and perfect in every way.

Some would have you believe that when you find your “Soulmate” you will understand each other easily, that you will respect each other’s point of view, that love will capture your heart in all moments, and flow between you forever more. Unfortunately, this is only true in fairy tales.  

One of my spiritual teachers has said many times “Soulmates often kill each other.” What…? kill each other, seriously? I don’t think he actually meant it quite the way you might be thinking, not a death as in the ending of the physicall body. But, what did he mean?  Perhaps the death of the conditioned/false self, which is necessary in order to become more authentically real, true to who you really are.

After all, soulmates are those people that we immediately fall in love with and ride off into the sunset.  Right? Wrong.  Soulmates, by design, must shake you to the core.

 What is the Soul?

The soul is that part of you that intertwines with the higher mind, or as I like to say, ‘God consciousness.’ It is that part of you that connects to all that is. Your soul advises you through synchronicity, intuitive insights, and new relationships serve as crucial messengers.  

You are ultimately a spiritual being having a physical or human incarnation, but most of us forget that, and live life responding with our conditioned mind by ‘spitting’ out outworn, unsatisfying thought patterns, stories within stories, and believing they are the truth, and you define who you are based on these illusions. As an evolutionary astrologer, I have learned that we are born to evolve, and we do this through our soul program…sometimes kicking and screaming along the way.  Such is life..

There are relationships that become ‘game changers’ and the lessons of love you experience will take your life in directions you never thought possible… for good and for ‘bad.’ Many people refer to these relationships as soulmates. You notice I said soulmates in the plural,  there isn’t just one, trust me!

To understand the depth and purpose of your intimate relationships requires an honest heart, and a passionate desire to know thyself beyond what is comfortable. As Shakespeare said: “To thine own self be true.”

Soulmates will point the way, and it can be painful and heart breaking. Soulmates will stretch you in ways beyond what you believe you are capable of. But, this is how you grow and become more of your evolving/true self, transforming you forevermore.

“The Privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are” Carl Jung  

 Life is a journey of remembering, and our Soulmates reflect to us that which we do not want to “see” in ourselves as part of our soul growth i.e. the journey of awakening..  

You must have tremendous courage, and an unflinching willingness to look and accept the buried parts of yourself; those places inside of you that you have deemed unacceptable, unloveable, dark and shameful. Otherwise, you will not be able to fully appreciate nor accept the gifts of love that are being offered to you.

Your soulmates are those people that help you to become willing participants in your own unfolding, to be ignited and transformed in service to your soul.

 The Myth of the “One”

“When the vulnerability of being meets up with an equal vulnerability of being, a strong bonding force is naturally set up between these two beings. Open hearts can do nothing but love, and when two such hearts meet explosions of love are made manifest and there is nothing we or anyone else can do about it. No power on earth can dissolve the love of two persons if that love is true.” – Dr. Mark Sircus

Soulmates are in place long before you jumped off the “cosmic diving board.” Your soul set in motion for you to attract those individuals in your life that would make a profound difference in the evolution of your soul, providing insights, often through some painful realizations, into your long held beliefs about all of it.

When you awaken and discover that you will have many “soulmate” relationships throughout life, you have an incredible opportunity. These helpful souls can facilitate the healing of those places inside of you that have been preventing you from living fully as yourself in creativity and joy.

As long as you live with the idea that finding your “soulmate” is the answer to fulfilling all your dreams of the perfect love, you will miss the opportunities and possibilities of real transformation. The Soul is wise, have faith.  

Ultimately, in the experience of the soul, you will come to that beautiful gift of soul love, and whether for a season or a lifetime, your life is richer for having the opportunity through these destined teachers for such tremendous growth and awakening.

Trust that the universe will support you by bringing you the persons who are most important for your spiritual awakening, your soulmates. You don’t have to do a thing, rather just be open and available to receive the gifts that are always offered.

Honoring the sacredness of love,
RJ