The dark night of the soul comes just before revelation. When everything is lost, and all seems darkness, then comes the new life and all that is needed.“ – Joseph Campbell

You sense the calling to recreate yourself anew, to become a grander version of yourself. You make big changes in your life or perhaps life has “thrust“ them upon you. You hear a “voice“ vibrating like a distant drum at the core of your soul, reminding you that you are not living in integrity with who you are desiring to become.

At first, you try and get comfortable with your discomfort, you cling to attitudes and behavior that provide security, …you long for feelings of familiarity …you cry …you grieve your old life …you lose your faith and trust in source over and over …you fall …you stand up only to fall again.

You become desperate for answers to questions that seem impossible to grasp with your rational mind …you demand to know “why me“…you feel like a victim of life …until you realize that your soul is answering the calling of your heart, and this is a gift. It is time to break free and become your true self.

It is time to fly and become a new you. You are no longer satisfied to be small even though it has been safe and rewarding for a long time. You recognize the life you have been living no longer serves you.

Perhaps quietly at first, growing louder and louder, your heart says time to be authentically you. …no longer can you hunger to live a harmonious life in alignment with your passion, and joy.

Aloneness and feelings of isolation become your natural state, you are in the shadows feeling lost, alone and scared. It appears as though your need for solitude cannot be broken even though you desire more than ever to connect with others.

This rite of passage takes you deeper into yourself than you have ever known. Your awareness is elevated, and you now discover that you are not in control. Your old life has fallen away and it is time to build up your spiritual muscles and allow yourself the invisibility you may need to make the transition. Welcome to the gift of transformation, the Dark Night of the Soul.

The Good News

As you surrender and allow spirit all it has to teach …you metamorphose into a more conscious and evolved you. Patience, surrender to love, and acceptance becomes your only allies now as you allow yourself to experience the fear and insecurity of what is beyond your mental understanding.

In time, what is no longer your truth has fallen away to a remembering of who you really are. Your life is richer, brighter and freeing beyond anything you could have imagined. Your joy, love, and appreciation for life returns in profound ways.

You rise again like the Phoenix from the ashes.

You are forever humbled and extremely grateful for the journey. Forgotten dreams come to the surface, and your heart is bursting with renewed energy. Your faith and trust in life returns and you move with the river of your life with grace and peace.

With all my love, RJ

To learn more about my personal journey, my memoir “Hugging Trees in the Dark… Finding the Courage to Free the Heart” is now available on Amazon. My past podcasts and blogs can be found at and