“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” – Friedrich Nietzsche

Have you ever noticed that wherever you go, there you are? What you believe about who you are follows you wherever you go. Notice I said “what you BELIEVE about yourself.” Who are you when you are being authentically you… dropping the pretense of expected behavior? Do you know?

What is important to you, and what are your needs and values? A question that is essential for you to answer if you want to make yourself happy, and be in alignment with your heart’s true desires.

Unfortunately, you are so heavily conditioned (it happens when you are too young to know better),and have “bought” into other people’s ideas of who you “should” be. Rediscovering who you are is a tricky and often a painful process.

To unravel your past conditioned stories of what you have believed about yourself, requires a strong commitment to your own truth…giving up the pretense of adopted behaviors that no longer serve you. It takes great courage to look with complete honesty and self-reflection.

Are you feeling as though you have to “be” someone you are not in order to meet the expectations of others?

If so, for how long can you keep up the charade as your true self-battles with your conditioned self for a voice in your life? Only your soul knows the answer. You can run, and avoid your truth, but what happens when you can no longer hide from yourself?

In an attempt to keep the status quo and to feel safe in the known, your ego works against you as you do not “remember” who you really are.

It takes great STRENGTH as you must go through the extreme discomfort of giving up the beliefs that no longer serve you to get to the truth of you. You face being honest with the reality of the life you have created, and your perception of self that has become “you”.

The good news is that the love inside of you becomes so potent, you become willing to take the journey into your heart no matter the perceived cost.

Your heart says “wake up”, “wake up” and you answer by changing your life often times in dramatic ways that confuses everyone around you. Your friends may not recognize you anymore, you feel alone, lost and maybe even crazy at times. Nothing makes sense or feels “right” until it does.

“When it’s time to become more conscious and awaken to your “true” self, the universal alarm clock will not allow you to go back to sleep, no matter how much you feel you may want to.”

Let’s talk about what that looked like for me as I share a past diary entry with you…. “another sleepless night last night. After tossing and turning for hours hearing my fearful thoughts attacking my peace like a gang of thugs, I fell into hopelessness.

I prayed and meditated with powerful affirmations and an intention of soulful connection, but I lost the battle, no sleep. I would almost prefer a real gang of thugs as at least I could handle it better knowing that my greatest enemies are not my own inner demons.”


The initiation into a new life comes, I will admit, with great fear and pain. The old self has to feel the dissolution of dying and the new self has to form out of the ethers of life itself. A process that has to unfold moment by moment.

Important though is to become aware that you are awakening to a more conscious and self-empowered human. The journey MUST begin with you….. knowing that who you are is deserving of love, joy, freedom and peace, which comes when you are acting as your authentic self..being true to your own soul.

“The attainment of wholeness requires one to stake one’s whole being. Nothing less will do; there can be no easier conditions, no substitutes, no compromises.” – Carl Jung

You are here to live your divine purpose(we all have one), and experience the joy and aliveness that comes with that. Isn’t it time for you to recognize and live yours? Yes!

In love, RJ …Free the Heart and Evolve the Soul